Swinging between sanity and insanity.

Staying positive comes natural to D and I – So whilst this journey is a very difficult one we still laugh and make jokes, even when we should be serious it seems! We had our first appointment with a Dr at the Wellington Fertility Associates clinic on Tuesday. Sitting holding hands, we must have looked like deer in the headlights. The Dr was straight to the point, humorous and obviously knows his stuff. After a very very uncomfortable examination, the diagnosis is either congenial absence of the vas deferens or a very underdeveloped one.

You will see from the picture what that means – basically a vasectomy from birth. 7 vials of blood were taken from D’s hard to find veins which will be looking his genetics – karyotype in case of Klinefelters syndrome (which is very unlikely), cystic fibrosis or some deletion within the azospermic gene. The results take between 4-6 weeks, which we will discuss with Dr Hutton over the phone. If the results show no significant genetic problem then D will undergo testicular aspiration of sperm. This involves a needle in his testes – For D (and any male I presume!!); it’s his worst fears becoming reality.

The worst news we got that day was in regards to funding for IVF. We knew that all procedures up to IVF would incur a cost to us but we were cautiously optimistic that we’d be able to get public funding. It turns out that because I have K , albeit from a previous relationship, we need to have been trying for a total of three years before even getting on a waiting list (currently at 12 months). The Dr noted how ridiculous it was given that my having a child does not change the fact that D has no chance of conceiving naturally, and we could try for the next 10 years and still not have a baby. We left feeling more informed but very disheartened. We’ve decided to go private, as it seems the obvious choice. We’ll be furiously saving over the next 6 or so months but it does mean that as soon as finances allow, we can start IVF straight away.

So, good/bad news... and life goes on.

We had a beautiful afternoon out at Lake Ferry, left feeling heaps better - Fingers crossed for some more sunny weather!